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How To Find A Sponsor – Questions you need to ask to find an AA sponsor

Posted by admin on March 31, 2017
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To follow certain guidelines in choosing an AA sponsor is wise and is very important. Making a mistake really can be troublesome and it’s a matter of life and death. Even though it’s regularly spruked at meetings to, “get a sponsor” Telling people to do that is not really the right thing to do. Not unless you get lucky and find a good one.

Sobriety matters and it’s important to know that a sponsor will not get you sober. Knowing this then it’s wise to never put completefind a sponsor in aa meetings trust in that one person. Don’t assume like we do that a sponsor knows how to keep you sober. Many people have made that mistake. In fact there’s a 95% chance they can’t help you.

Worse then that they can be downright dangerous to sobriety. Best thing to do is find an AA group where they are keeping people like you sober. Doing this is a much better option then to find a sponsor. This way the group is your sponsor.

There are few groups that have success, unfortunately. The question then needs to be, Where did the sponsor get sober? AA is not AA as a whole, it’s a collection of groups and each group is autonomous. If a primary Alcoholic (someone allergic to alcohol) is sober enough to be a sponsor then there must have a history of him or her getting sober in AA. They didn’t get sober by accident. They would have to have known what they were doing to be still around.

The Group is Your Sponsor

To find a sponsor there needs to be careful consideration. Questions need to be asked of the prospective sponsor. They are:

  • How long are you sober? In the answer back make sure it is unbroken sobriety they have. Sometimes they forget they had a little drink during that time somewhere along the line. The question can often determine if they are making mistakes they haven’t picked up on.  It’s not wise to choose someone less then 7 years sober. That means from their last drink. Finding someone with over 10 years sobriety is preferred but much harder to do.
  • Ask where did you get sober? i.e. what group, what state, what country
  • Who are the sober members who helped you in that group, state, country, in your early days of getting sober? It’s important to check them out to see if they have stability. It’s like when you go for a job and need to show references and work history.
  • It’s wise to ask how many meetings do you do now – and how many did you do in the early days of you getting sober? This question can be confronting for people who haven’t done the distance and it may put them on a spot. That’s unfortunate however this is a matter of life and death for you to obtain the right sponsor. Most primary’s die before the age of 30 because they don’t get the help they need.
  • What type of group do they belong to? A primary s only interested in I.D. groups. I.D. is the only format of group that suit you. To identify. That means to: Tell your story of, What it was like (when drinking) What happened (how you got to aa) What it is like now (how long sober and what you’re doing to stay sober)
    Stay away from other so called AA groups. The meeting is in fact not an AA meeting unless it’s an I.D. meeting. Other 12 Step meetings may work for some people. People with all sorts of other problems attend but these are not AA meeting and the people are not Primary’s.
  • Make sure the sponsor is not spiritual. If this is what they rely on as information for you  then they will have you praying and working 12 Steps. This doesn’t work for you so don’t do any of that and especially don’t do a step 4. It is a deadly practice. Just stay on the first step. That is to be making your life manageable on a daily basis.

Get A Sponsor V Achieving Positive Results On Your Own.

To achieve positive results at AA meetings depends on doing the right things. Then doing it being duplicated. Once you are on track you will look at other people who are doing it differently and watch how they are going. Are they are getting better results them you. If so find out why.
In the meantime just follow instructions to Keep It Simple, stay on the first step. Once you start to settle down and achieve results then this is proof that the system you are on works. Change what you are doing will get different results. In my experience of teaching this to people do stay sober.

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Alcoholics Anonymous, and the Two Hat Wearer

Posted by admin on March 20, 2017
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There are two ways at trying to get sober in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). The right way and the wrong way. One way works and the other doesn’t. Unfortunately the way that works is not the most popular way these days. Although it once was. Now a strange situation has arose where the majority are doing it the wrong way. Just to confuse it a little more there is also the Two Hat Wearer. These people change their opinion to suite the situation – or when they are cornered and have to be seen as rational.

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The name of the game is staying sober and everything else is irrelevant. A fact that eludes the spiritualists and step workers who frequent AA meetings.

It may sound crazy to a logical thinker that something that doesn’t work is more popular then something that does. Unfortunately logical thinking is not a high attribute to many people attending AA meetings. They frequent AA meetings for varied reasons and sobriety isn’t one of them. They are what we can call predators. They use the malfunction to their advantage. Like any predator does.

It’s illogical to attend AA meetings to pray and work steps. Especially illogical when it doesn’t work. Not for a victim of alcohol who is a primary (someone allergic to alcohol) They come and are told to do ‘the program’

If they’re a primary they will not last and drink again. They leave AA and die. Then another lot come in to take their place. They are told to do the same. The same thing that sent the last lot to the bone yard. Told by people who’s primary purpose is not sobriety.

Stay Sober Without Working Steps

The step workers tell a short-termer (someone new) to stay away from the people who are staying sober and doing it easy.  The consensus of following such dud advice is that they don’t stay sober.

Can Primary’s be happy not drinking? Of course they can – if they do AA meetings and stay away from the first drink. The sober people tell short-termers to stay away from step-workers and spiritualists. Because they simply don’t keep anyone sober.

They say they pray and work steps. They are liars. It’s madness to live that way and it will send people mad. They go mad then have no choice but to drink again. It’s the only thing that will settle the head down.

Unfortunately the sobriety situation is no better when they go to so called ‘professional people’ Like counselors, social workers, detox centres etc. Their customer base is people who are desperately wanting help with an alcohol allergy. They instead are treated like drug addicts. They will end up committing suicide. There’s no other way out.

The Two Hat Wearer

The two hat wearers go to steps groups and spiritual groups and be spiritual for some situations and then go to ID groups. They agree that an alkie can get sober on the first step. They will say they are not spiritualists when attending ID groups. Not being spiritual means they operate on the first step only.

A two hat wearer will be someone else also in AA. It’s mainly a women who is in a secret relationship with an older sober member (OSM) While in the relationship they will say they are getting sober as a single person. This simply is not true. It’s dangerous and it’s deceptive. The single member has a different set of rules and problems to ‘married’ people getting sober.

The person deceiving their group members in this way is called a two hat wearer.

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Why The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous Doesn’t Work

Posted by admin on March 05, 2017
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12 Steps may work for many other 12 Step Programs. Work for people with all sorts of other problems but not for alcoholics (someone allergic to alcohol) that attend A A meetings on a regular basis.

The first step is the only one to be interested in. If you do this one daily all will be OK. To make your life 12 steps aamanageable daily . Then the other 11 steps fall into place automatically. Then there’s no need to worry YOU ARE DOING THE 12 STEPS. Don’t stress all is well.

 

After all it is ONLY about not drinking alcohol. That’s all. You also need to be happy about it. Never fear, without alcohol life is good. Life was not meant for artificial highs like alcohol. Without this illegal drug your life will be great. You will learn the experience of life. Learn how it was meant to be. You will live a life of natural highs and be happy. The same way people do who are not allergic to alcohol. You will not hear or read this information from mainstream media. Why? because of the advertisers. There’s to much money in it for them. Money from alcohol sales and from people wanting to get sober.

Here we explain each step so you will know why ‘working 12 steps’ after attending AA meetings needs to be avoided. You will learn why to void individually doing steps and why there are no results from doing them.

Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – and that our lives had become unmanageable.

This is the only step out of the 12 that mentions alcohol. It’s the only one you need to be interested in. This step comes in two parts. The first part ‘We admitted we were powerless over alcohol‘ This is easy if already attending AA meetings. You have done the first part of the 1st Step. This happened when you walked through the doors of AA. Reason that is if alcohol was doing for us what we thought it was doing then AA is the last place to be going.

The second part of the first step is: ‘that our lives had become unmanageable’ If your life is unmanageable and alcohol has something to do with it then AA is the right place to be. To start making the life manageable, ON A DAILY BASIS. This means to not drink for that day. Go to a meeting and stay out of the old environment. That is not to associate with drinkers, or drug takers of the past. Make sure you eat properly and if you haven’t got a job get one. If you have got a job keep going. Don’t give it up. Stay till they sack you if that’s the way it is. It is the best option.

Life will change once you are on a track of getting sober. We are nice happy little people. It’s only alcohol that made us into people that we didn’t like. Let alone what anyone else thought. A person allergic to alcohol the victim of alcohol and not the perpetrator. You will not hear this said at AA meetings. They will talk about their defects of character. Say things like ‘we were liars’ or ‘we were selfish’ etc. many negative things. These people have no idea of the true nature of alcoholism.

12 Steps For A Primary Alcoholic is No Good When the Only Problem Is Alcohol.

Many of the people who frequent AA meetings will never get this. Because for whatever reason they don’t recognize it for what it is. More like they don’t want to recognize this simple fact. Why? One reason why is self interest. To have control over you. They can’t do this if you don’t believe you are sick.

Many who attend AA meetings are not alcoholics or secondary alcoholics at best. They in fact have something else wrong with them. They are not allergic to alcohol. Alcohol will never kill them. For them sobriety is not a matter of life and death. First impression when attending an AA meeting is that everyone is there for sobriety. Not true. Then why the hell would you attend AA meetings with sick people. Well, the reality is that many people attend for many and varied reasons. Some reasons are obvious and has briefly been explained here.

The people who don’t have sobriety to offer you are there to control you. They can only do this be having you pray and work steps for sobriety. They also control you by being your sponsor. They find out all about you this way and will have you working steps. Sobriety is not about that. Not at all. It’s not normal and it’s not a practical way of living. Especially not when all you need is to stop drinking alcohol and to get on with your life.

 

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