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Addiction is not an Alcohol Problem

Posted by admin on March 17, 2017
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A Primary alcoholic is not someone who has an addiction to alcohol. They are allergic to alcohol. So it’s not true when someone says they are an addict in relation to a problem with alcohol. Once you’ve learned how to cope with an alcohol problem it’s a good thing not to be consuming alcohol. Someone with a problem is to learn why they need to stop drinking alcohol.

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Society is brainwashed by multi million $ advertising that wants us to believe that not drinking alcohol means missing out on something good. This is SO not true. In reality it is the total opposite. It’s a delusion to think alcohol will enhance your life. Corporations who make lots of money from the sale of alcohol and Detox Centres make money from addiction.

Instead the message here is to stop drinking or die. Being allergic to alcohol and not being aware of the problem is the danger. Alcohol is an illegal drug contrary to the belief of Russell Brand. It’s a drug that’s no better if not worse then other illegal drugs. Alcohol has a different affect and it’s treatment needs to be different to gain positive results.

The person allergic to alcohol is often referred to here as “a primary” and it’s explained why they’re different to heavy drinkers. They’re different also to drug addicts and different to secondary alcoholics.They are in a class on their own.

They have a different makeup to the drunk/secondary/spiritualist/headcase/sexo/etc. that frequent AA meetings. It is confusing at times for a primary to know how to get sober. Confusing because there’s no awareness of the true problem associated with alcohol. It’s not understood in mainstream media.

AA’s anonymity is why Alcoholics Anonymous was so successful for many years. AA helped people once but it’s very hard now to get sober. One reason why this site is necessary – to get the information out. Information that’s not in the meetings anymore.

Instead victims now don’t have an understanding as to why they can’t drink alcohol. A primary is allergic to alcohol and so can not drink like normal people. One drink sets up a compulsion. One drink is not enough because they drink for affect and not for the taste. An affect to the allergy caused by alcohol.

Getting sober is now a paid business where some are making a killing in more ways then one from addiction. AA is free and this is why it’s not popular with the addiction moneymakers as a solution to get people sober. AA is however the only place that’s known to have success for the allergy and possibly those with addiction.

Drug addiction is Different. Different affect, different nature to Alcohol.

They are smarter. Much smarter then the step workers and spiritualists who frequent AA meetings. Listen to them and a primary will end up dead. Primary’s are business people and so they can pick up things much easier – easier then the average person as well. That’s because they are logical thinkers. They are also fast learners.

The spiritualists and step workers are not logical thinkers or fast learners. For example, they say from the floor of meetings that they are “slow learners” and that they are a ‘garden variety alcoholic’ In other words, they have the IQ of a pot plant. Alcohol will not kill them. They have OTHER PROBLEMS.

Alcohol affects a Primary differently to a drunk. Because of an allergy to alcohol. NOT addiction to alcohol and drugs. The allergy oppresses their natural abilities and so the behaviour is often opposite to capabilities. They’re useless in many ways. Alcohol causes difficulties with keeping in tough with daily living skills.The simple things become difficult.

Life becomes unmanageable. When drinking a primary don’t recognize they are smart. What happens doesn’t happen to the average person. It affects them differently. This fact is not common knowledge and so doesn’t have an easily recognized solution.

The sufferer doesn’t understand what’s happening to them. They don’t recognize warning signs. The danger signals. Someone who is allergic to alcohol may at times behave like a hopeless drunk, but they are not drunks. They don’t pass out like a drunk does. Quite the opposite, they have a huge capacity of alcohol.

They can not see that it affects them mentally. They have mental blackouts and this is difficult to understand or even recognize. A primary needs to recognize how they are different and why alcohol affects them differently.

A primary is not the derelict in the park. He’s not a weak hopeless person who pees himself. He’s far from that description. The mainstream media depicts alcoholism in this way but it’s not true for the person allergic to alcohol. A mental allergy to alcohol is what the media lies about or has no knowledge of.

It’s the normal to be sober. Life is not meant for artificial highs. Life is meant to be experiencing natural highs. This is not possible if there’s an allergy to alcohol and it effects the brain. A primary is not someone that passes out from alcohol. A good alkie doesn’t come alive till around 2am.

It’s good if you are a sober primary.

A primary is a good honest and happy person. A pillar in society in many instances. Example is Dr Sylvester Minogue. A primary is often a leader and is someone people look up to.

It’s an advantage to be a sober primary. He’s basically honest although unpredictable when drinking. He can not guarantee his behavior when drinking alcohol. Not even in small amounts. It sets up a compulsion. He is allergic to alcohol and it’s an allergy to the brain. The frontal lobe. It flips the thinking and that happens from that very first drink.

Life is never the same again after drinking alcohol. Not until he stops drinking it and he spend time adjusting the thinking back to the person he would have been if not for alcohol. In other words to get sober.

 

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Have a Relationship Problem with Alcohol?

Posted by admin on February 19, 2017
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12 Steps to Control Your Alcohol

Posted by admin on February 17, 2017
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Life Was Not Meant To Be Easy. Well in fact it was. – Just not meant to be chasing Easy Artificial Highs.

Chasing such an effect could put you in danger of being a victim of drink spiking and many other dangers.

Including for those who are allergic to alcohol the effect may result in a blackout, a delusive state, or something else that causes misery.

Life becomes hard and we can’t always see what is happening to our lives. By reading this blog you will come to realize that being sober is fun – and that not having an alcohol problem is how life is meant to be enjoyed.

You may well ask:

1. How can I stop drinking alcohol on my own?
2. How can you prevent alcohol addiction?

3. What are the steps to overcome alcoholism?
4. How do I stop drinking alcohol to excess?

In reality we need to stop using alcohol as a social lubricant – It is in fact a dangerous delusive drug.

A delusive drug that makes people that are allergic to it to not see things as they really are.

Anyone who wants to give it up, even for a while, usually needs help to be successful.
* For many overcoming a disease takes a little time – especially one caused by alcohol.

The advantages are to:
  • Stop blackouts.
  • Avoid alcohol poisoning.
  • Minimize chances of being a victim of drink spiking.
  • Not to go into a seizure – seizures kill – they are wrongly diagnosed as a heart attack.
  • Have accountability to self and to others.
  • Maintain and protect self respect.

If you’re someone who can’t guarantee the behavior when drinking – then alcohol is not for you.

Find another way to have ‘fun’ Life is fun without alcohol.

The liquor industry spends $billions to have consumers believe that alcohol is what fun is ALL about. NOT TRUE!  It becomes a delusion, a lie. Instead over use of alcohol sends many lovely young people to an early grave. I’m sure we don’t have to convince you of that. I bet you know people who it has affected and who are in trouble due to over use of alcohol – this is a true fact.

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How An Alcoholic Blackout Will End A Relationship

Posted by admin on January 15, 2015
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Chatting recently with a woman on the train during our trip from the Blue Mountains to the City. She’s visiting her daughter who lives in the Eastern suburbs. Once settled she said she hopes her daughter had something nice to eat when she arrived. “She usually does”. Just to keep the chat flowing I ask if her daughter was married. Well… she said, it so happens… ‘ Well, ..it’s funny you should ask, ..but well …yes, she was married recently, but now she’s separated and is getting a divorce …and so the story unfolds…

Sue her daughter, married Harry only around 3 months earlier and now they’re getting a divorce.

She first met Harry, a Fijian, and fairly new to Australia, and he seemed quite nice. He’s quite religious and Sue sometimes visited his church gatherings with him for support. Harry sang a little and he once played the guitar at a gathering.

Romance blossomed and both in their mid 30’s wanted to marry quickly. Sue owned her Eastern Suburbs apartment and they lived there once married.

Her brother runs a construction company and he employed Harry in a reasonably responsible position. The job came with a company vehicle that Harry could use on weekends also with petrol paid by the company. Harry settled into his new job fairly well without taking too much time off.

The couple enjoyed evenings together at home after work and sometimes they had friends over on the weekends. The evening something happened, they were home alone relaxing after dinner, with a glass of scotch playing records. They danced a little to the music and Sue then decided to play a favorite song that she and her father loved singing together when he was alive.

Sue put it on and sang along with the words. Harry listened intently and appeared to like it also. He gave Sue the thumbs up but then soon after the gesture changed to a thumbs down. Sue rather shocked, moved quickly to turn off the song, while at the same time asked Harry, “What does that mean?”

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Well, she doesn’t know what happened after that but she recalls being pinned down on the floor with Harry sitting on her. She cried out, ‘Don’t hit me, please don’t hit me’. She could feel the pain in her arm. Harry suddenly ripped off her clothing and with her only wearing pajamas she was naked. She thought he was going to rape her but he didn’t. Instead he shouted for her to book him a flight to Fiji.

Still pinned Sue reached for her mobile phone and tried to get online. She realized she couldn’t connect because her hands were shaking so much. She told Harry she would have to use the computer to book his flight . She didn’t think he’d let her up to do it but he did, and so she booked his one way ticket to Fiji for that night. A $600 ticket that he never used.

Sue managed to call her brother also, she needed him to come over ASAP. Desperately needing his support. He lives in outer Western suburbs and it took time for him to be there for her. While waiting Sue talked calmly to Harry. She assured him he could take the car to the airport and that she’d pick it up later and so he need not worry about leaving it.

She’s desperately checking to see how soon her brother would be before he gets there.

“I’m not far away now” he said. When he arrived he passed Harry outside near the car. The car door was open and in the light he could see Harry. He spoke briefly to him before heading inside to see sister Sue. After checking she’s okay he went back outside to talk with Harry but he was gone. Sue’s mum said that her son is probably sometimes a little racist and he came back inside and said to Sue that he couldn’t see Harry although he could still be in the shadows and he couldn’t see him because he’s black.

Harry did come back inside after a while and now with her brother there for support Sue told him how now he could see his daughter again, back in Fiji, and now with the money he will receive from her he can afford to send his daughter to a good school in Fiji.

The story was that Sue had a few dollars to protect when she married Harry and so had a per-nuptial agreement made up. The agreement was that Harry will receive $10.000 if the marriage broke down. Sue later told her mum that it is only $50 per year in Fiji to send a child to a ‘good school’.

Harry went back outside and later Sue and her brother went out to see that the car was gone. They guessed that Harry had taken it to the airport and caught his flight to Fiji.

Sue had photo’s taken of bruising and she laid assault charges.

It’s Over

Sue’s mum said her daughter told her later that Harry turned up again a couple of days later acting as if nothing had happened. It appeared to her that Harry thought their life would carry on as usual. Sue had to really spell it out to him that the marriage was over and that she was getting a divorce.

Now the Knowledge is Power on this blog interpretations of what had happened, and does happen regularly. This situation happens to people who are allergic to alcohol. They don’t know they are allergic to alcohol so are not aware of the effects. The average person would not recognise that alcohol caused Harry’s behavioral problem that night.  Fact is he had a personality change due to the alcohol. Not Sue’s mum, nor Sue nor her brother could guess that Harry had acted in an alcoholic blackout and that he had no recollection of what had happened that night.

Harry had an alcoholic blackout

Very few people can recognize an alcoholic blackout because there is very little info on it. The facts are deceiving.  Sue’s mum said they only had a small amounts from the scotch bottle that night and so it is understandable the problem is not identified as being directly related to alcohol.

Of course Harry could have had drinks before going home that night, but it can still happen this way if he didn’t. It’s virtually only people in Alcoholics Anonymous who can understand what has probably happened – and they are able to identify when the problem is alcoholism.

This knowledge comes from experience gained by attending AA meetings. We can safely say that a personality change happened to Harry. We can probably also safely say that it happened as a direct result of alcohol. Evidence is that Harry is a primary alcoholic He has destroyed a happy secure future for himself and he would have no idea why it happened. Sad but true that many similar cases happen everyday to people who drink and are allergic to alcohol.

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