Some AA Meetings include a Reflections group as an AA meeting. Primary’s (allergic to alcohol) don’t get sober at these meetings. Instead they are turned off going to meetings.
They say that only 1% of the people who walk through the doors of AA get sober. Media is liable to say anything up to 10%. It’s simply not true. For a start they’re only guessing because there’s no way of knowing how many people walk through the doors.
AA is anonymous and so no one knows who comes and goes. If even 1% of people stay and get sober the walls of AA would be bulging with happy sober people. They are not, instead meetings are closing due to lack of members.
Members reported recently going to a Daily Reflections group meeting and noted how many wrong things there were. Wrong in the way that the meeting was not in line with the original format of AA meetings. Primaries (people allergic to alcohol) will not get sober at these types of meetings and need to be avoided. These types meetings will send them nuts, therefor they kill alcoholics.
Things wrong with Reflections Group:
1. This reflections group only went for an hour. Traditional AA meetings always go for an hour and a half. They would only start at 8pm. This is so people who work can attend. It’s so important people work when getting sober. They have their travel time, time to eat, and time to find the meeting before it starts.
2. The Daily Reflections meeting (meeting weekly) was not set up in a proper way. They had around 45 people in attendance. They had them sit in not one but 3 circles. 3 circles around the chairman sitting in the middle.
This means that people in outer circle and middle circle were talking to everyone’s back. The people sitting inner circle were talking to people on the other side of the chairman or to people behind them. Virtually no eye contact for anyone. They couldn’t see who was talking most of the time. Blockheads running the meeting. Not alcoholics.
The chairman started the meeting by reading Chapter 5 of the Big Book, How It Works (how it doesn’t work it should be). Luckily he read at a reasonable speed. Sometimes it’s a slow process for a variety of reasons that we won’t go into right now. as the meeting only went for an hour. Next though he asked someone to read out the 12 Traditions. Then after that another book called “Daily Reflections”.
3. Then back to the chairman ready to start the meeting. He reminded people it’s only an hour meeting so they needed to ‘share the time.There were 40 to 45 people and after the readings they had 40 minutes left to speak. That is absolutely crazy.
4. Out of the 8 or so people who go to speak only 1 or 2 briefly identified – meaning told a little of their story. The rest with a few minutes each to speak, instead of telling their story, praised god. For what, who knows?
One women in her 5 minutes said she was sober for a short time. She now has god in her life due to ‘doing the steps’ and said ‘that is lovely.’ In the next breath she said that, just last week, she had a Panic Attack. She thought she was going to die. She knew what was happening because she had them before.
It was so sad because she did not relate her results (the panic attack) to what she was doing. The women couldn’t see she was not getting sober. The panic attack was a direct result of what she was doing. God is not the right one to be seeking help from in the meetings. This point is often lost.
The next person asked to speak is a male. He simply praised god for him being there, and so it went on. Many said the same as each other. One bloke had a 1st birthday and so during the 40 minute meeting a Birthday Card went around for everyone to sign. This often happens at meetings and it’s so very distracting.
They have birthdays for sobriety. So silly. On closing the meeting everyone formed a large circle by holding hands and before saying the Serenity Prayer to close they sang happy birthday to the bloke who’s a year sober. Wacky do! …won’t see him next year.