Alcoholics Anonymous, and the Two Hat Wearer

Posted by admin on March 20, 2017
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There are two ways at trying to get sober in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). The right way and the wrong way. One way works and the other doesn’t. Unfortunately the way that works is not the most popular way these days. Although it once was. Now a strange situation has arose where the majority are doing it the wrong way. Just to confuse it a little more there is also the Two Hat Wearer. These people change their opinion to suite the situation – or when they are cornered and have to be seen as rational.

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The name of the game is staying sober and everything else is irrelevant. A fact that eludes the spiritualists and step workers who frequent AA meetings.

It may sound crazy to a logical thinker that something that doesn’t work is more popular then something that does. Unfortunately logical thinking is not a high attribute to many people attending AA meetings. They frequent AA meetings for varied reasons and sobriety isn’t one of them. They are what we can call predators. They use the malfunction to their advantage. Like any predator does.

It’s illogical to attend AA meetings to pray and work steps. Especially illogical when it doesn’t work. Not for a victim of alcohol who is a primary (someone allergic to alcohol) They come and are told to do ‘the program’

If they’re a primary they will not last and drink again. They leave AA and die. Then another lot come in to take their place. They are told to do the same. The same thing that sent the last lot to the bone yard. Told by people who’s primary purpose is not sobriety.

Stay Sober Without Working Steps

The step workers tell a short-termer (someone new) to stay away from the people who are staying sober and doing it easy.  The consensus of following such dud advice is that they don’t stay sober.

Can Primary’s be happy not drinking? Of course they can – if they do AA meetings and stay away from the first drink. The sober people tell short-termers to stay away from step-workers and spiritualists. Because they simply don’t keep anyone sober.

They say they pray and work steps. They are liars. It’s madness to live that way and it will send people mad. They go mad then have no choice but to drink again. It’s the only thing that will settle the head down.

Unfortunately the sobriety situation is no better when they go to so called ‘professional people’ Like counselors, social workers, detox centres etc. Their customer base is people who are desperately wanting help with an alcohol allergy. They instead are treated like drug addicts. They will end up committing suicide. There’s no other way out.

The Two Hat Wearer

The two hat wearers go to steps groups and spiritual groups and be spiritual for some situations and then go to ID groups. They agree that an alkie can get sober on the first step. They will say they are not spiritualists when attending ID groups. Not being spiritual means they operate on the first step only.

A two hat wearer will be someone is in a secret relationship with an older sober member (OSM) while saying they are getting sober as a single person. This simply is not true. It’s dangerous, it’s deceptive. The single member has a different set of rules and problems to ‘married’ people getting sober.

The person deceiving their group members in this way is called a two hat wearer.

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Alcohol Allergy Causes Many Deaths A Year

Posted by admin on March 18, 2017
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The story of Peggie.
Peggie had an alcohol allergy problem and attended AA meetings. Her cute little Maltese terrier Barney also went along to the meetings with her. Barney sat on her friend Terry’s lap when he chaired the meeting and Barney caused no problem, he simply slept on his lap.

The nasty spiritualists alcohol allergyand Step workers however got together and tried to ban Barney by putting a sign up saying ‘No Dogs Allowed’ Barney couldn’t read and they didn’t know who they were dealing with when they tried that with Terry. He soon let them know in no uncertain terms where the sign belonged and that “Barney was stayin”

Peggie and her husband were successful business people and lived comfortably. Money was no object, never a problem, but Peggie’s drinking due to her alcohol allergy was a problem for them both. She tried so hard to stop and out of desperation in 2014 she booked into another Detox Centre for treatment.

Detox and Rehab Centre

The Centre was the most expensive to date. At a cost of $5,000 per day Peggie stayed there for a month. She thought nothing of paying this kind of money. Peggie had been in and out of Detox Centres many times over the years. When they released her this time she had a certificate to say she would never drink again.

Unfortunately she got drunk that night. This result is expected by the OSM of AA. That’s because she may have been a month without alcohol but was not a month sober. She had not lived a month in society as a sober person. Due to being institutionalized in the Detox Centre. These facts is what is not known and they don’t want it known. That they don’t show results.

Peggie’s husband Max didn’t drink at all. For a start he didn’t like the taste or smell. Peggie often slept on Terry’s lounge rather then go home tipsy, her and Barney. She would put Barney up at the peephole to ensure Terry let them in. She sometimes knocked late at night but she knew Terry loved Barney and so couldn’t resist. Her hubby was very tolerant of her problem and stood by Peggy through thick and thin. He was such a lovely man. Peggie just couldn’t stay stopped from the alcohol for any length of time.

No Sobriety in Meetings

The meetings were not strong enough for her. They used to say in meetings in the old days, “Stick With The Strength” There’s no strength in meetings anymore mainly due to Detox Centres and due to god. “Get god and get drunk” was also said in AA meetings in the old days.

Peggie still though was a beautiful women despite her problem. Being around 60 years of age she certainly didn’t look her age. She always dressed stylish and looked so beautifully groomed. She however was still a chain smoker. That didn’t stop her being likeable. She a softly spoken, charming and very intelligent lady. Terry supported her at the meetings and it was needed and appreciated. Due to his support she was able to get around 3 years sobriety up at one time, and for the first time in her life.

Terry lost contact with her for a while after that and he heard one day that she had died from a massive heart attack.

Alcohol Allergy and a Seizure is Dangerous

The cause of death is often wrongly stated on a death certificate as heart attack. Often it’s an alcoholic seizure. The two conditions have similar symptoms and an alcohol induced seizure can be mistaken for heart attack. In AA meetings it’s common to see people have seizures.

Amy Winehouse, is an example of someone who died early due to an alcoholic seizure. She was only 24 when she died of a seizure. Such a shame she had a unique blues voice and destined for stardom. Alas, alcohol cut her life short and she didn’t even reach the 27Club member age. She died even younger then the many musicians who died at aged 27.

As Keith from the Summer Hill AA group would say, “It’s not how old you are that matters, it’s how long you’re gonna live” So true, alcohol allergy kills many young people a year. At around about 30 they’re washed up if they’re still drinking.

Statistics are hidden on that although and true causes of many early deaths attributed to alcohol are never known. AA members are in a unique position to see the true facts on why victim of alcohol die, commit suicide, have seizures mistaken for heart attacks, are wrongly diagnosed by doctors with mental problems and wrongly put on psych medication. All this as a direct result of problems with alcohol.

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An Alcohol Problem Is Not Addiction.

Posted by admin on March 17, 2017
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A Primary alcoholic is not someone who is addicted to alcohol. They are allergic to alcohol. So it’s not true when someone says they are an addict in relation to a problem with alcohol. Once you’ve learned how to cope with an alcohol problem it’s a good thing not to be consuming alcohol. Someone with a problem is to learn why they need to stop drinking alcohol.

Society is brainwashed by multi million $ advertising that wants us to believe that not drinking alcohol means missing out on something good. This is SO not true. In reality it is the total opposite. It’s a delusion to think alcohol will enhance your life. Society is brainwashed by corporations who make lots of money from the sale of alcohol.

Instead the message here is to stop drinking or die. Being allergic to alcohol and not being aware of the problem is the danger. Alcohol is an illegal drug contrary to the belief of Russell Brand. It’s a drug that’s no better if not worse then other illegal drugs. Alcohol has a different affect and it’s treatment needs to be different to gain positive results.

The person allergic to alcohol is often referred to here as “a primary” and it’s explained why they’re different to heavy drinkers. They’re different also to drug addicts and different to secondary alcoholics.They are in a class on their own.

They have a different makeup to the drunk/secondary/spiritualist/headcase/sexo/etc. that frequent AA meetings. It is confusing at times for a primary to know how to get sober. Confusing because there’s no awareness of the true problem associated with alcohol. It’s not understood in mainstream media.

AA’s anonymity is why Alcoholics Anonymous was so successful for many years. AA helped people once but it’s very hard now to get sober. One reason why this site is necessary – to get the information out. Information that’s not in the meetings anymore.

Instead victims now don’t have an understanding as to why they can’t drink alcohol. A primary is allergic to alcohol and so can not drink like normal people. One drink sets up a compulsion. One drink is not enough because they drink for affect and not for the taste. An affect to the allergy caused by alcohol.

Getting sober is now a paid business where some are making a killing in more ways then one. AA is free and this is why it’s not popular with moneymakers as a solution to get sober. AA is however the only place that’s known to have success.

A Primary are very different to the drug addict. Different affect, different nature.

They are smarter. Much smarter then the step workers and spiritualists who frequent AA meetings. Listen to them and a primary will end up dead. Primary’s are business people and so they can pick up things much easier – easier then the average person as well. That’s because they are logical thinkers. They are also fast learners.

The spiritualists and step workers are not logical thinkers or fast learners. For example, they say from the floor of meetings that they are “slow learners” and that they are a ‘garden variety alcoholic’ In other words, they have the IQ of a pot plant. Alcohol will not kill them. They have OTHER PROBLEMS.

Alcohol affects a Primary differently to a drunk. Because of an allergy to alcohol. NOT addiction to alcohol and drugs. The allergy oppresses their natural abilities and so the behaviour is often opposite to capabilities. They’re useless in many ways. Alcohol causes difficulties with keeping in tough with daily living skills.The simple things become difficult.

Life becomes unmanageable. When drinking a primary don’t recognize they are smart. What happens doesn’t happen to the average person. It affects them differently. This fact is not common knowledge and so doesn’t have an easily recognized solution.

The sufferer doesn’t understand what’s happening to them. They don’t recognize warning signs. The danger signals. Someone who is allergic to alcohol may at times behave like a hopeless drunk, but they are not drunks. They don’t pass out like a drunk does. Quite the opposite, they have a huge capacity of alcohol.

They can not see that it affects them mentally. They have mental blackouts and this is difficult to understand or even recognize. A primary needs to recognize how they are different and why alcohol affects them differently.

A primary is not the derelict in the park. He’s not a weak hopeless person who pees himself. He’s far from that description. The mainstream media depicts alcoholism in this way but it’s not true for the person allergic to alcohol. A mental allergy to alcohol is what the media lies about or has no knowledge of.

It’s the normal to be sober. Life is not meant for artificial highs. Life is meant to be experiencing natural highs. This is not possible if there’s an allergy to alcohol and it effects the brain. A primary is not someone that passes out from alcohol. A good alkie doesn’t come alive till around 2am.

It’s good if you are a sober primary.

A primary is a good honest and happy person. A pillar in society in many instances. Example is Dr Sylvester Minogue. A primary is often a leader and is someone people look up to.

It’s an advantage to be a sober primary. He’s basically honest although unpredictable when drinking. He can not guarantee his behavior when drinking alcohol. Not even in small amounts. It sets up a compulsion. He is allergic to alcohol and it’s an allergy to the brain. The frontal lobe. It flips the thinking and that happens from that very first drink.

Life is never the same again after drinking alcohol. Not until he stops drinking it and he spend time adjusting the thinking back to the person he would have been if not for alcohol. In other words to get sober.

 

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Why The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous Doesn’t Work

Posted by admin on March 05, 2017
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12 Steps may work for many other 12 Step Programs. Work for people with all sorts of other problems but not for alcoholics (someone allergic to alcohol) that attend A A meetings on a regular basis.

The first step is the only one to be interested in. If you do this one daily all will be OK. To make your life 12 steps aamanageable daily . Then the other 11 steps fall into place automatically. Then there’s no need to worry YOU ARE DOING THE 12 STEPS. Don’t stress all is well.

 

After all it is ONLY about not drinking alcohol. That’s all. You also need to be happy about it. Never fear, without alcohol life is good. Life was not meant for artificial highs like alcohol. Without this illegal drug your life will be great. You will learn the experience of life. Learn how it was meant to be. You will live a life of natural highs and be happy. The same way people do who are not allergic to alcohol. You will not hear or read this information from mainstream media. Why? because of the advertisers. There’s to much money in it for them. Money from alcohol sales and from people wanting to get sober.

Here we explain each step so you will know why ‘working 12 steps’ after attending AA meetings needs to be avoided. You will learn why to void individually doing steps and why there are no results from doing them.

Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – and that our lives had become unmanageable.

This is the only step out of the 12 that mentions alcohol. It’s the only one you need to be interested in. This step comes in two parts. The first part ‘We admitted we were powerless over alcohol‘ This is easy if already attending AA meetings. You have done the first part of the 1st Step. This happened when you walked through the doors of AA. Reason that is if alcohol was doing for us what we thought it was doing then AA is the last place to be going.

The second part of the first step is: ‘that our lives had become unmanageable’ If your life is unmanageable and alcohol has something to do with it then AA is the right place to be. To start making the life manageable, ON A DAILY BASIS. This means to not drink for that day. Go to a meeting and stay out of the old environment. That is not to associate with drinkers, or drug takers of the past. Make sure you eat properly and if you haven’t got a job get one. If you have got a job keep going. Don’t give it up. Stay till they sack you if that’s the way it is. It is the best option.

Life will change once you are on a track of getting sober. We are nice happy little people. It’s only alcohol that made us into people that we didn’t like. Let alone what anyone else thought. A person allergic to alcohol the victim of alcohol and not the perpetrator. You will not hear this said at AA meetings. They will talk about their defects of character. Say things like ‘we were liars’ or ‘we were selfish’ etc. many negative things. These people have no idea of the true nature of alcoholism.

12 Steps For A Primary Alcoholic is No Good When the Only Problem Is Alcohol.

Many of the people who frequent AA meetings will never get this. Because for whatever reason they don’t recognize it for what it is. More like they don’t want to recognize this simple fact. Why? One reason why is self interest. To have control over you. They can’t do this if you don’t believe you are sick.

Many who attend AA meetings are not alcoholics or secondary alcoholics at best. They in fact have something else wrong with them. They are not allergic to alcohol. Alcohol will never kill them. For them sobriety is not a matter of life and death. First impression when attending an AA meeting is that everyone is there for sobriety. Not true. Then why the hell would you attend AA meetings with sick people. Well, the reality is that many people attend for many and varied reasons. Some reasons are obvious and has briefly been explained here.

The people who don’t have sobriety to offer you are there to control you. They can only do this be having you pray and work steps for sobriety. They also control you by being your sponsor. They find out all about you this way and will have you working steps. Sobriety is not about that. Not at all. It’s not normal and it’s not a practical way of living. Especially not when all you need is to stop drinking alcohol and to get on with your life.

 

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Posted by admin on February 19, 2017
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